Creating a STRONG Foundation to a Relationship

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We all know that couple that gets physical way too fast. Some of us don't think much about it. But some of us get really worried for them. But why do we worry? Why does it matter if a couple gets physical quickly? Studies have shown that when a person touches another person chemicals in their bodies with make them think that they truly know each other. You could sit next to someone you don't know, touching arms, and after an hour or two you feel like you know the person better even if you didn't really have a conversation. Psychologists have stated that you don't even START to get to know someone until you've been seeing each other for about 3 months. Has anyone dated someone who seems to change drastically after being together for a little while? Why does this happen? People will always put their best foot forward in the beginning. Once you've been together for a while you are more comfortable. You are able to share more personal things, act like your true self and disclose those more annoying or embarrassing things about yourself.

How do I make sure that I am truly getting to know the person I am dating? GREAT QUESTION! There is a way to truly get to know someone and not let the physical things get in the way. Here are the steps: Know, Trust, Rely, Commit, Touch. When you get to know someone, you start developing trust for them. That trust you develop helps you rely on them. Being able to know, trust, and rely on the person makes you want to commit. Once the commitment is there, touch is acceptable. A couple shouldn't touch before there is commitment. They shouldn't commit unless they can rely on each other. I believe whole heartedly in this process. When a couple gets to know each other, trusts each other, relies on each other and commit to each other, those physical things are so much sweeter and will bring the couple closer together in a way that is indescribable. A foundation for a relationship will be built through this process. The couple will TRULY KNOW each other.

I encourage all to reevaluate the relationship with their boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, significant other. Please look for ways that you can truly get to know the person because a relationship is so much sweeter and love is so much deeper when they have that.

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